How Much Do You Love Yourself?
I’ve had wonderful parents. They supported me all along, especially when I was a child. They never thought or mentioned that anything could be unreachable for me.
Probably this is the reason that I don’t feel any limitations. I rarely doubt, if I’m able to achieve anything I’d love to.
As I have healthy self-compassion, I could never properly understand teachings about ‘Learn to love yourself unconditionally’.
Then, I got a lesson from a client. A client asked for my support, as she was so much overwhelmed with work that the stress blocked her from starting the work.
After the initial questions, it turned out that she had deep self-compassion issues. Based on her description, her boss seemed to be a bully, but – according to her, he was a very good person. After all, he evaluated her well, and nobody can be perfect. It’s only she, who was a horrible person, as she could not handle everything that she believed she needed to.
I asked her if she could accept that she was still a wonderful human being, even if she could not complete the work at hand on time.
This was the moment when I saw I lost her.
At the end of the session, she thanked me and told me she was very grateful. Then, I never heard from her again.
When I re-evaluated this conversation later, I realized that – from my safe space – I entered her house by kicking the door in. She was not yet prepared to see herself as a wonderful being. She gave me a lesson on what it means to be suffering from lack of self-compassion.
😣 Our negative drivers (saboteurs), like stress, anger, regret, fear, guilt, anxiety, shame, obligation, can surely push us into action and we can achieve success through that.
🛑 The accompanying result of these successes are frustration, burnout, depression, heart-failure and other stress related sicknesses.
✨ Our supportive mind offers a very different approach.
It reassures you that, even though you made a mistake, you are still a wonderful person.
✨ It tells you that everything, even your mistakes, can be turned into gifts and opportunities by the way you react to them.
✨ It tells you that you can launch into action through compassion, curiosity, creativity, the joy of self-expression and a desire to contribute.
✅ The result will be accomplishment, satisfaction and joy.
👀 Unfortunately, it is not always a simple decision which road you chose. Your childhood impressions determine your choices and might put your saboteurs in the driving seat.
👉 The first step on the way out is awareness.
👉 Then, a strong will to put your supportive mind in control.
👉 When you are determined to change your life, coaching can offer you invaluable support on your way.
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